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Partners living well together after retirement

Most of the time, when it comes to the subject of retirement, couples usually spend their time organizing their financial plan, while doing so, they are often neglecting their plan for the emotional aspect of their life. The question is how will you and your spouse have a successful retirement together without compromising the usual routine that you’ve been used to and the years of a passionate relationship that you both cherished? 

Retirement is a New Chapter 

Think of it as another page in a novel, it is both interesting and mysterious but you need to flip the page to engage the mystery in this new phase in life. It is a natural progression in every relationship but everyone approaches it differently. 

Couples are accustomed to being interdependent with one another, but this is one of the details that couples need to be aware of. It is a fact that quality time with your spouse is a must, but too much of it could be problematic, so it is important to maintain a certain amount of space with one another and to have a social life outside of your relationship. It is both healthy for the mind and the body to keep in touch with other people, for you to preserve your individuality. 

Maintaining a distance with your partner could be a bit weird, but it is one of the things that keeps the fire burning, for example, your spouse wants to go on a night out with his or her friends, the natural thing to do is to allow them to do so because if not, they would often think that you are locking them up inside a cage. Allowing them to do so could have a positive impact because it only shows that you have your trust in them, and in exchange for your trust, they will give you their loyalty.

We all have different levels of expectations towards our significant other, you could be the more outgoing one or the sociable one and your partner could be the one to prefer to stay at home and spend more time lounging in the house, which is why it is important to be open with one another and to maintain healthy communication.

Healthy Communication is The Key

Couples often play a sort of mind game whether they are aware of it or not, where one is expected to read the feeling of the other while the other closes their mouth and let the other figure out what they are feeling. You might be the type who is not vocal about your feelings, and that is fine because that is your nature and if that’s the case then it is essential for your partner to know that you are the stoic type of person and that doesn’t mean that you are rejecting their presence. 

So, it is important to communicate with your partner and to discuss the different layers and aspects of your personality, in that way, both you and your partner could easily adapt and adjust to each other’s temperament.

Make Connections with Others & Explore New Hobbies

When we become too dependent on our partner, we tend to lose our individuality. From time to time, it is also important to focus on building your individuality, it might sound selfish but it is essential. 

There are plenty of mysteries in this world that are waiting to be uncovered, so why not get out of the confines of your relationship, and explore the world, find a new hobby, meet people with the same interest as you do. This might sound selfish or neglectful towards your partner but if you think of it with an open mind, it is not, in addition, it will add more spice to your relationship because the time spends apart from your spouse will give you the feeling of longing their presence, plus doing something outside your relationship with your partner could give you something new and exciting to discuss with them.

Try to spend time with Other People as a Couple

There is a common belief that spending more time alone with your significant other gives you more happiness than spending time with other people, but many have stated that they experience an intense feeling of happiness and contentment whenever they socialize with both their significant other and with other people.  

It is important to develop a social life outside the circle of your romantic relationship. Having friends that you could talk to and grow with is important for your overall well-being. Growth regardless of being alone or being with your partner is essential.

Patience and Adjustment, The Final Step

Going to the next phase of your relationship is not that easy, many of your daily routines could drastically change, so it is important to be patient and give yourself and your partner some time to adapt to changes. 

At the end of the day, no matter how you think of it, you and your significant other are very different and distinct, you might have different beliefs, personalities, and interests but think of these differences as the thread that binds you together, your individual different could also be the reason on why you both fell in love with each other. 

Recognizing that retirement represents our last, and often most momentous, chapter in life can help one realize that it is the time to take on challenges that you’ve always dreamt of. Through communication, understanding, and patience couples can experience these cherished moments together. 

  1. https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/publications/relationships-21st-century-forgotten-foundation-mental-health-and-wellbeing

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